My husband and I attended our 10th hs reunion. I?

I lost him for a bit. But when I went to go find him. This girl that tried to break us up in high school. Was having sex with my husband in the ladies room. He did not even know I was there till. I threw my wedding ring as his head. I just can't believe he would do this. Now he keeps trying everything to contact me. My house looks like a florist I have 200 messages from him on the Answering Machine and my cell phone. Please someone help with some advice. See my and my husband are the same age and we were always together we were never apart. From the time we were born. We were one day apart. I mean we would date other people like in JR High. But from HS to wedding its been just him and I.

My husband and I attended our 10th hs reunion. I?
Wow, it sure didn't take much for her to get him apart from you then. Of course he is sorry he got caught.
Reply:obviously it is NOT just him and you if your husband was screwing this girl in the bathroom.

Let him beg a bit longer and Take him back

and dont go to any more reunions...if you wanted to really dump him you would not be on here asking what you should do since the answer is soo obvious!
Reply:First, you need to ask yourself three questions...

1. Do you still love him?

2. Do you forgive him?

3. Can you ever forget this?

If you answer no to any of these, there is no advice for anyone to give. If your answer is yes to all of them, I'll start with this...every situation is different. Would there be anything to make you think this isn't the first time he's done this? I'm not going to say take him back or leave him, that is completely up to you, and unfair of me to give you that kind of advice. I will say that a person who is unfaithful once is 50% more likely to be unfaithful again. Are there any kids involved? This is important. You also need to ask yourself if you would stay with him just for the kids, or for another reason. That ties in with question 1. I guess what I'm saying is if you're in love, and the relationship is worth saving, save it. If not, do what you need to do to get on with your life.
Reply:It hasn't always been just you and him. Remember that time in the bathroom at your reunion?
Reply:let the rat go .you don't need the crap. not now.looks like he wants to use you. keep an eya on him. and do it now
Reply:He's an idiot and he knows it. Is he otherwise a good man? Then take him back..soon. If not then forget about him. My sister is married to a bum who cheats on her but she stays. I tell her she should leave but she doesn't listen. I want her to have a good man so bad that If she found one who screwed up, I would tell her to forgive him.
Reply:from HS to your wedding its been just you and your husband until he figured its about time to screw things up?



think about it, does he even think about your relationship as how you treat it? obviously not.



Going back to him might save the marriage but really, its not going to make things better for you. He did it once and if you take him back again, he might change for a bit but whats gonna happen on the next reunion? or any party at all?



Seeing the person that hurt you most is just giving him another chance to hurt you again. Its easy to say you can prolly forgive him but think about it. Can you really forget about it? Can you trust him of going out alone ever?





YOU WILL END UP SMOTHERING HIM AND ITS NOT GONNA BE A GOOD PICTURE. Trust takes a while to build up, it takes a second to break it apart. By the time you start picking up the pieces, you'll be torturing yourself of trying to trust the person you love most, you thought who loved you most, the person that caused why you're too desperate, caused you to talk about it on the internet, publicly.



Well, this is all I can say really.



The rest is all up to you.
Reply:i'm sorry, that is terrible, he cannot be trusted obviously, no i wouldn't let him back for the flowers, thats ludicrous.

she wanted to see if she could break that bond between you two, and she did, at least i'm glad you caught him. i can almost guarantee this was not his first time,

and doing it there with you in the same building, that was cold.

- he did the worse possible thing he ever could have done to you, you can never trust him now.

he was so 'cool' about it, so casual, he's a real bastard.
Reply:Downside during all that time it took only a moment to show you how little he respects you and your marrage. Give him his walking papers and find someone else
Reply:She probably contacted him prior to the reunion and he fantasized about her. He probably fantasized about her in high school. Now he knows what she's like and he wants you back. The fantasy was better than the reality of her. I would have him tested for STDs before I let him into my bed again, but after all those years, you should take him back provided he agrees to go for marriage counseling.
Reply:Leave him, you deserve so much better!!!!!
Reply:Guess he found the grass isn't greener huh? Make him suffer and then hold it over his head the rest of his life. Just kidding.... let him apologize and make it clear he will never get another chance if he does it again. He had a momentary lack of judgment and I bet he is sooo sorry.
Reply:Stop trying to make excuses for him. If you want him back, then take him back. Just know who it is that you are taking back. If you don't want him back, then why are you trying to plead his case for him. He is your husband and it is your life. How miserable or how joyful it is, is up to you, not us. I say whatever you do don't forget what you saw that night, because that tells the story of his marriage to you. Now you must tell the story of your marriage to him.
Reply:do you truly believe this was the first time since you married that he has been unfaithful?
Reply:How long have you two been married? Any kids? To start with, I'm sorry that you had to see your husband's blatantly stupid, dumass, walk down memory lane. It hurts! And betrayals are hard to get over. But.....if the rest of the marriage is good, then you might want to consider going to a marriage counselor to work this out. Sometimes, painful as it is, you can salvage a relationship and move past infidelity. If there is abuse in your marriage, substance abuse, or other signs of infidelity, then you have to ask yourself what kind of a prince you're really with. Then, have yourself a good cry and get the hell out of Dodge!
Reply:ZZZZZZZZZ

stay with him, you deserve each other.

Him for being stupid to do this to you and you for even considering taking him back...

he did not have any respect for you (he could have met her someplace else) or her (in the bathroom geez) and for himself (would have made for a nice police blotter)



If you even think about staying you need your head examined too!

Tell this story to anyone ANYONE at all and change the names of the man characters (instead of you being the woman make it some cousin) and see what ANYONE would say!
Reply:OMG! How awful for u.

What do u want advice with. Honey, u did the right thing. U got rid of his cheatin @$$ and thats exactly what u needed to do. If he hooked up with her in that little amount of time, its untelling how many times he has cheated on u.

Wow, what a story. Stick to your guns. Dont take him back. Find a man who will respect u and whom deserves u.

I feel for ya hun. Stay strong though.

Much luck to u.
Reply:Well, he REALLY screwed up! What you need to do, is ask yourself if you still love him and if you can ever trust him or feel the same about him again. If you answer no to any of those questions, then you need to divorce him and move on. BUT, if you answer yes to any of those questions, then you need to see what can be done to save your marriage. though, i don't think you should let him off the hook any time soon. If you just forgive him and go on, that'll be to easy and he'll think he can do it again, and you'll take him back. by the way, if you DO take him back and he ever does it again. Divorce him and NEVER look back.
Reply:So what is your question?
Reply:maybe your better off just being friends since there is no respect for you or the marriage. keep yourself open and don't let one bad situation trap you in a web of love do what's best for you and your sanity good luck
Reply:what an @$$. He doenst deserve you. Leave him and piss on his grave