How can i handle people asking me where the groom's mother is?

my fiance hasn't ever had a good relationship with his mother, and she left her husband with a man she met on the internet and moved across the country when he was 14. he hasn't spoken to her in about 4 years.





so he didn't invite her. i keep having people ask me about her (florists ask if i need 2 mothers corsages, friends ask about mother/son dance, relatives ask me if i like my future MOH, etc)





how can i politely say that she is a gutter skank that ruined his childhood and isn't allowed within 5 miles of my future husband, let alone the wedding?

How can i handle people asking me where the groom's mother is?
Just tell them that his mother is not involved in his life and leave it at that. Usually people will drop the subject after that response.
Reply:It's embarassing to keep hearing questions like that. And of course saying the truth isn't really what people want to hear.


Just smile politely and tell them that she's not gonna be able to attend the wedding. Say anything, I would say he's an orphan, but i dont' know if ure ok with that or not.


If u wanna get out of that lie, just say the son and mother havent really spoken to each other in a very long time and it's gonna be very hard to find out where she lives right now, since she moved with another man and no body knows where she lives right now.
Reply:Just remeber when dealing with vendors they are use to weddings and by that I mean all sorts of different kinds of set-ups. While it may seem out of hte ordinary to you or I, to them they don't really want/need the details, they just want to make sure they have considered everything in your price! So while you may feel awkard, they are probably thinking abou tthe next thing and what it will cost! Don't feel awkard, you know the situation and telling them they don't need to tack on an extra $65 dollars for a corsage you don't need is all they are really interested in. Congrats on the Wedding!
Reply:It's not anybody's business where the Mother of the groom is, or why she is not attending.





When they ask about her, just tell them that she will not be attending. If they ask why, give some ridiculous answer that will give them the clue that it's not their business... like "She is an astronaut and they wouldn't land the space shuttle early just for her."





You could even just tell them that the mother of the groom has passed... although that will prompt them to ask if you want some kind of tribute... like a bouquet of flowers in the seat where she WOULD be, etc.
Reply:I would ask your fiance what he would like you to tell people. But I would politely tell people that he no longer speaks to her and she will not be attending the wedding. You can tell people I'm sorry but my mother-in -law will not be able to make the wedding or friends I'm sorry he doesn't speak to his mom
Reply:I am glad you asked this question, cos I will have a similar problem when my wedding day (finally) arrives! I no longer speak to my mother, who lives in the UK. Fortunately, we live in Greece and the wedding will be here, so I can always say she was too unwell to travel or something like that. My Fiance's family are very close and very religious, I know they will push me for more answers, they will think it is a crime to get married without my mother there! They already think it is strange that I was not baptised as a child!





Good Luck xxx
Reply:you just politely say..No* there is no mother in law..long story and i'd prefer not to get into it* ..leave it at that*


its very unfortunate that this happend to him as a young child*


I wish you both the best on your wedding day and future*


Communication Trust and Honesty are the keys to a healthy relationship*....along with Respect* ~:) BEst WisheS*
Reply:Well you certainly don't have to answer like that, and with the example of questions you've given, you don't even have to provide an explanation.....just say they're divorced and she lives out of state and will not be attending the wedding if you feel like you need to.
Reply:You just say "she will not be attending" or "she will be unable to attend." My father-in-law couldn't attend the wedding for drama-filled personal reasons, and we just told people that he couldn't come. You don't need to get into all the gory, personal details.
Reply:tell them she escaped from her mental institute 3 years ago, and hasn't been seen since. or she could be a terrorist.





or you could say "she is a gutter skank that ruined his childhood and isn't allowed within 5 miles of my future husband, let alone the wedding"
Reply:Well the florsits and all those questioning you can't avoid, these people doesn't know about your fiance and his mother's problems. So simply say "His mother isn't around" and leave it at that. You do not owe them an explanation as to why.
Reply:You cannot POLITELY say anything of the sort. Nor should you ever speak that way about another human being, especially your future MIL. Get some class dearie!





You say, "My future mother in law isn't able to be with us for the wedding."
Reply:"how can i politely say that she is a gutter skank that ruined his childhood and isn't allowed within 5 miles of my future husband, let alone the wedding?"





She will be unable to attend.
Reply:you really don't need to explain your mother in law's lack of attendance to the wedding to anyone, all you need to say is she won't be at the wedding ,and leave it at that, nobody needs to know nothing more.
Reply:Just say that she won't be attending the wedding. It's that simple. No further explanation is required of you, and people with good manners won't ask for one.
Reply:1) she wasn't invited





2) she won't be attending.








Is there a mother-figure in his life that could fill the place of his mother? Someone he feels close to that he can dance the Mother/Son dance with?
Reply:"She was unable to make it today."





If anyone asks why you say "Why do you want to know?" This is usually enough to stop most rude people.





There's no need to elaborate.
Reply:it isn't their business...just say, she won't be attending the wedding...or that only one mother's corsage will be needed. Do you like her? I have never met her. What if you do meet her? I won't meet her....etc.
Reply:"His mother lives in a distant state, and unfortunately won't be able to attend."





"I haven't had the pleasure of meeting her yet."





Something along those lines.
Reply:just simply say that she is not attending.


and if ppl ask OMG WHY? say that she is simply not a part of our lives. thats is.


:D
Reply:Haha.. the last part there made me laugh...





I would just say.."she hasn't been around for a while" and say it in a way that they won't ask for details.





Good luck, poor fiance though.
Reply:i believe a simple "no we will need 1 mother corsage" would do or a simple "she will not able to attend" will do. there's no need to go into detail especially about his personal matters. just keep it light. best wishes
Reply:Just say he has decided to not invite her. It is nobody elses business and I doubt they will pry after that comment. If they do they are being rude. Just brush it off casually.
Reply:Maybe just say she wasn't able to come and give them the look. Everyone knows any decent mother would be able to attend her son's wedding.
Reply:Simply tell people "unfortunately, she will not be able to attend" and don't explain and leave it at that. It'll brook no other questions from people.
Reply:say it's a complicated story and kind of change the subject ... im sure they wont continue... and if they do just say ..basically she wont be able to attend
Reply:Just say unfortunatley his mother will be unable to attend and change the subject.
Reply:Politely say, "Unfortunately, she was unable to attend". That's all.
Reply:lmao...I wouldn't get yourself all worked up over it (especially if she is a gutter skank!) Just say she is no longer with us
Reply:Just tell people she wont be attending ,afrer all its nothing to do wiyth anyone else
Reply:These are all normal questions. All you have to say is he doesn't associate with her and leave it at that!