my fiance hasn't ever had a good relationship with his mother, and she left her husband with a man she met on the internet and moved across the country when he was 14. he hasn't spoken to her in about 4 years.
so he didn't invite her. i keep having people ask me about her (florists ask if i need 2 mothers corsages, friends ask about mother/son dance, relatives ask me if i like my future MOH, etc)
how can i politely say that she is a gutter skank that ruined his childhood and isn't allowed within 5 miles of my future husband, let alone the wedding?
How can i handle people asking me where the groom's mother is?
Just tell them that his mother is not involved in his life and leave it at that. Usually people will drop the subject after that response.
Reply:It's embarassing to keep hearing questions like that. And of course saying the truth isn't really what people want to hear.
Just smile politely and tell them that she's not gonna be able to attend the wedding. Say anything, I would say he's an orphan, but i dont' know if ure ok with that or not.
If u wanna get out of that lie, just say the son and mother havent really spoken to each other in a very long time and it's gonna be very hard to find out where she lives right now, since she moved with another man and no body knows where she lives right now.
Reply:Just remeber when dealing with vendors they are use to weddings and by that I mean all sorts of different kinds of set-ups. While it may seem out of hte ordinary to you or I, to them they don't really want/need the details, they just want to make sure they have considered everything in your price! So while you may feel awkard, they are probably thinking abou tthe next thing and what it will cost! Don't feel awkard, you know the situation and telling them they don't need to tack on an extra $65 dollars for a corsage you don't need is all they are really interested in. Congrats on the Wedding!
Reply:It's not anybody's business where the Mother of the groom is, or why she is not attending.
When they ask about her, just tell them that she will not be attending. If they ask why, give some ridiculous answer that will give them the clue that it's not their business... like "She is an astronaut and they wouldn't land the space shuttle early just for her."
You could even just tell them that the mother of the groom has passed... although that will prompt them to ask if you want some kind of tribute... like a bouquet of flowers in the seat where she WOULD be, etc.
Reply:I would ask your fiance what he would like you to tell people. But I would politely tell people that he no longer speaks to her and she will not be attending the wedding. You can tell people I'm sorry but my mother-in -law will not be able to make the wedding or friends I'm sorry he doesn't speak to his mom
Reply:I am glad you asked this question, cos I will have a similar problem when my wedding day (finally) arrives! I no longer speak to my mother, who lives in the UK. Fortunately, we live in Greece and the wedding will be here, so I can always say she was too unwell to travel or something like that. My Fiance's family are very close and very religious, I know they will push me for more answers, they will think it is a crime to get married without my mother there! They already think it is strange that I was not baptised as a child!
Good Luck xxx
Reply:you just politely say..No* there is no mother in law..long story and i'd prefer not to get into it* ..leave it at that*
its very unfortunate that this happend to him as a young child*
I wish you both the best on your wedding day and future*
Communication Trust and Honesty are the keys to a healthy relationship*....along with Respect* ~:) BEst WisheS*
Reply:Well you certainly don't have to answer like that, and with the example of questions you've given, you don't even have to provide an explanation.....just say they're divorced and she lives out of state and will not be attending the wedding if you feel like you need to.
Reply:You just say "she will not be attending" or "she will be unable to attend." My father-in-law couldn't attend the wedding for drama-filled personal reasons, and we just told people that he couldn't come. You don't need to get into all the gory, personal details.
Reply:tell them she escaped from her mental institute 3 years ago, and hasn't been seen since. or she could be a terrorist.
or you could say "she is a gutter skank that ruined his childhood and isn't allowed within 5 miles of my future husband, let alone the wedding"
Reply:Well the florsits and all those questioning you can't avoid, these people doesn't know about your fiance and his mother's problems. So simply say "His mother isn't around" and leave it at that. You do not owe them an explanation as to why.
Reply:You cannot POLITELY say anything of the sort. Nor should you ever speak that way about another human being, especially your future MIL. Get some class dearie!
You say, "My future mother in law isn't able to be with us for the wedding."
Reply:"how can i politely say that she is a gutter skank that ruined his childhood and isn't allowed within 5 miles of my future husband, let alone the wedding?"
She will be unable to attend.
Reply:you really don't need to explain your mother in law's lack of attendance to the wedding to anyone, all you need to say is she won't be at the wedding ,and leave it at that, nobody needs to know nothing more.
Reply:Just say that she won't be attending the wedding. It's that simple. No further explanation is required of you, and people with good manners won't ask for one.
Reply:1) she wasn't invited
2) she won't be attending.
Is there a mother-figure in his life that could fill the place of his mother? Someone he feels close to that he can dance the Mother/Son dance with?
Reply:"She was unable to make it today."
If anyone asks why you say "Why do you want to know?" This is usually enough to stop most rude people.
There's no need to elaborate.
Reply:it isn't their business...just say, she won't be attending the wedding...or that only one mother's corsage will be needed. Do you like her? I have never met her. What if you do meet her? I won't meet her....etc.
Reply:"His mother lives in a distant state, and unfortunately won't be able to attend."
"I haven't had the pleasure of meeting her yet."
Something along those lines.
Reply:just simply say that she is not attending.
and if ppl ask OMG WHY? say that she is simply not a part of our lives. thats is.
:D
Reply:Haha.. the last part there made me laugh...
I would just say.."she hasn't been around for a while" and say it in a way that they won't ask for details.
Good luck, poor fiance though.
Reply:i believe a simple "no we will need 1 mother corsage" would do or a simple "she will not able to attend" will do. there's no need to go into detail especially about his personal matters. just keep it light. best wishes
Reply:Just say he has decided to not invite her. It is nobody elses business and I doubt they will pry after that comment. If they do they are being rude. Just brush it off casually.
Reply:Maybe just say she wasn't able to come and give them the look. Everyone knows any decent mother would be able to attend her son's wedding.
Reply:Simply tell people "unfortunately, she will not be able to attend" and don't explain and leave it at that. It'll brook no other questions from people.
Reply:say it's a complicated story and kind of change the subject ... im sure they wont continue... and if they do just say ..basically she wont be able to attend
Reply:Just say unfortunatley his mother will be unable to attend and change the subject.
Reply:Politely say, "Unfortunately, she was unable to attend". That's all.
Reply:lmao...I wouldn't get yourself all worked up over it (especially if she is a gutter skank!) Just say she is no longer with us
Reply:Just tell people she wont be attending ,afrer all its nothing to do wiyth anyone else
Reply:These are all normal questions. All you have to say is he doesn't associate with her and leave it at that!
Thursday, January 26, 2012
DIY Centerpieces?
After receiving such expensive quotes from florists I think I am going to attempt to do them on my own, but need an opinion.
Our wedding is in the evening in October. The linens are a dark copper with a sage vine print . (Colors and sage and brown).
For the main centerpiece, 28 inch square glass vase filled with pears. Coming out of the top I will have branches and orange snapdragons (see pic for snapdragon).
http://s202.photobucket.com/albums/aa284...
http://s202.photobucket.com/albums/aa284...
I will also have two smaller arrangements on each table that will be small glass cubes filled with natural stones. They will have 3 roses (orange, champagne and red) and a bunch of berries (Hypercium).
What do you think? Does that work? Any suggestions?
THANKS!
DIY Centerpieces?
Check with your reception venue!!! I wanted to do a fruit themed centerpiece and they told me that they would only allow any type of food to be brought in (for consumption or not)if they did it themselves - with the exception of the cake!!
They would not allow me to use the fruit at all because they weren't going to take the liability of something being bad or bug inhabited that they did not 'approve'.
Your centerpiece ideas sounds lovely, but make sure you'll be allowed to use them before making elaborate plans.
Reply:practice, practice, practice. and have your mother or bridesmaids practice with you. make sure your arrangements are simple enough that they can be done in a few hours, you want your flowers to be fresh! also make sure they are easily transported and can be fixed easily if something goes awry in transporting them.
Reply:They seem like they might come out really nice, but be careful that it doesn't look like something done on Trading Spaces. Saddly, they have used fruit in so many of their designs that they took away the beauty of using fruit in a classy way. Since you are only going to use it as the main centerpiece, I think you're steering clear of the "trading spaces dilemma." The smaller centerpieces sound nice.
Have you thought about adding candles to the mix?
Good luck on you DIY. I'm glad to see that you're taking on this "challenge" and truely making your wedding that much more special!
Our wedding is in the evening in October. The linens are a dark copper with a sage vine print . (Colors and sage and brown).
For the main centerpiece, 28 inch square glass vase filled with pears. Coming out of the top I will have branches and orange snapdragons (see pic for snapdragon).
http://s202.photobucket.com/albums/aa284...
http://s202.photobucket.com/albums/aa284...
I will also have two smaller arrangements on each table that will be small glass cubes filled with natural stones. They will have 3 roses (orange, champagne and red) and a bunch of berries (Hypercium).
What do you think? Does that work? Any suggestions?
THANKS!
DIY Centerpieces?
Check with your reception venue!!! I wanted to do a fruit themed centerpiece and they told me that they would only allow any type of food to be brought in (for consumption or not)if they did it themselves - with the exception of the cake!!
They would not allow me to use the fruit at all because they weren't going to take the liability of something being bad or bug inhabited that they did not 'approve'.
Your centerpiece ideas sounds lovely, but make sure you'll be allowed to use them before making elaborate plans.
Reply:practice, practice, practice. and have your mother or bridesmaids practice with you. make sure your arrangements are simple enough that they can be done in a few hours, you want your flowers to be fresh! also make sure they are easily transported and can be fixed easily if something goes awry in transporting them.
Reply:They seem like they might come out really nice, but be careful that it doesn't look like something done on Trading Spaces. Saddly, they have used fruit in so many of their designs that they took away the beauty of using fruit in a classy way. Since you are only going to use it as the main centerpiece, I think you're steering clear of the "trading spaces dilemma." The smaller centerpieces sound nice.
Have you thought about adding candles to the mix?
Good luck on you DIY. I'm glad to see that you're taking on this "challenge" and truely making your wedding that much more special!
Looking for a blue lily bouquet?
I desperately want dark blue, silver and white as my theme for my wedding and I am trying to source dark blue lillies or roses from florists, they all say there is not such thing or they can't do it - I have tried quite a few too:(
It doesn't bother me if they are real or fake, dyed or sprayed, and even if they aren't roses or lillies, but another flower that is the same dark blue in colour.
I was wondering if there was anyone out there who could tell me where I could get them from, I'm not in a hurry as I am not getting married until 2009 - I am justing getting organised for everything.
Thanks, your help would be appreciated. I am in Australia but it doesn't bother me if I ordered them from overseas.
Looking for a blue lily bouquet?
Since you're not in a hurry, look up an origami design and make them out of paper (long lasting, durable, nonperishable, and cheap).
Earf!
Reply:Lilies don't come in blue as far as I know. Why not have white ones? They are stunning (it's what I am having) and it will still fit in with your colour scheme. I wouldn't get silk either, real ones are much nicer.
PS. Tulips come in blue and are gorgeous flowers
Reply:NO, no, no. Do NOT have roses or lillies sprayed with a dark color, else it will look like crap. A better idea is to have the white lillies or roses edged with silver and use dark blue ribbons. OR use dark blue ribbons and silver leaves.
Hotel Blu
It doesn't bother me if they are real or fake, dyed or sprayed, and even if they aren't roses or lillies, but another flower that is the same dark blue in colour.
I was wondering if there was anyone out there who could tell me where I could get them from, I'm not in a hurry as I am not getting married until 2009 - I am justing getting organised for everything.
Thanks, your help would be appreciated. I am in Australia but it doesn't bother me if I ordered them from overseas.
Looking for a blue lily bouquet?
Since you're not in a hurry, look up an origami design and make them out of paper (long lasting, durable, nonperishable, and cheap).
Earf!
Reply:Lilies don't come in blue as far as I know. Why not have white ones? They are stunning (it's what I am having) and it will still fit in with your colour scheme. I wouldn't get silk either, real ones are much nicer.
PS. Tulips come in blue and are gorgeous flowers
Reply:NO, no, no. Do NOT have roses or lillies sprayed with a dark color, else it will look like crap. A better idea is to have the white lillies or roses edged with silver and use dark blue ribbons. OR use dark blue ribbons and silver leaves.
Hotel Blu
Does the cost cutting tip of telling vendors you're having a party or family reunion really work?
I'm all for negotiating but I'm curious how this tactic worked for those who have attempted it.
Telling them it is a party or family reunion isn't technically lying because it is a party or family reunion. There happens to be a wedding going on as well. Some vendors won't even stay long enough to be able to tell. Tiered/stacked cakes for example are becoming popular for birthdays and such so they aren't limited only to weddings. People use florists and djs, etc for parties as well. So despite the fact that all things wedding are automatically 10x more expensive once you say "wedding", how are the services and products really that different for a wedding vs a party or event? Especially if you tell the vendor that you don't want or need the extra wedding stuff that they add on.
Does the cost cutting tip of telling vendors you're having a party or family reunion really work?
Personally, I found being honest with my vendors worked best. I never told them it was for anything other than a wedding; no way would I never have slipped up with that one.
If the vendors price was out of my range, I told them so. In today's economy, many vendors are willing to negotiate! I simply told them, "I would love to use your services, unfortunately your prices are out of my budget. Is there someone you might be able to recommend in a lesser price point?" This is where they will ask you about your budget %26amp; they will start working with you or refer you to someone else.
Example - my videographer shaved about $600 off of my price quote. He was running a special where if you booked you got an Ipod or PS3. I opted to not receive this "gift with purchase" and reduced the time I had him for. It was a win win for both of us.
Just be honest. You wouldn't want your vendor to lie to you, so start the relationship out that way.
Reply:For some vendors, when its not obvious, yes, this will work!
For example, my bakery. I got a small cake and cupcakes at half of what they wanted for a "wedding cake" and "wedding cupcakes"!! Now, clearly, it wasn't your traditional wedding cake, so it didn't really matter.
Also, you may be able to get centerpieces and some floral work done cheaper if its not identified as a "wedding centerpiece." But, its kind of hard to explain why you need a bouquet for a "family reunion."
Good luck!!
Reply:Do not tell your photographer or videographer this- as the poster above said, they will be unprepared and not able to deliver you the product that you'll expect.
I am not a fan of lying to vendors. How would you feel if they lied to you?
Reply:If you're having the party on a Friday or (especially) Saturday, you can forget about saving a lot of money. That is when the vendors get most of their work. You could save bunches of money by having the Wedding on any Sunday - Thursday, as long as it's not surrounding a holiday weekend when, again, they are naturally busy.
If you would like to see if there are cost savings, you could have a friend place a call on your behalf to a prospective vendor. Ask them how much a Saturday in (insert monty here) would cost for a party. Then, have someone else call the same vendor for a Wedding quote for a Saturday in the same month.
We tried this with our food vendor, and the prices were the same... which spoke volumes for them.
A BIG cost savings tip - consider favorite restaurants. Many have banquet rooms, or rooms that can be converted into banquet rooms. We got an amazing deal on a Sunday lunch Wedding at one of our favorite restaurants. Everyone loved the food, parking was abundant, and (best of all) we didn't have to ask friends/family to help clean up a venue when the party was over.
Good luck!
Reply:Although some tell you to do this, it doesn't really always work because vendors find out anyway. You're really better off being honest with them.
Regardless, you CAN negotiate with vendors--you just have to know how and to be patient and flexible. Certain things though, you CAN get away with--
*Cakes. If you are going for something less traditional, you can probably save money. Cupcakes are cheaper than wedding cakes and having your baker make a small tiered cake to cut and sheet cakes for serving (kept in the back) WILL save you money.
*Centerpieces are an easy way to save money. You don't necessarily have to tell the florist (if you are going the floral route) that it's for a wedding...you CAN tell them it's for a party. In addition, you can do non-floral CP's which can save you lots of money as well.
*DON'T try to use this "family party" tactic on a photographer or videographer--the packages are different and it's really not fair because it'll leave them unprepared.
Telling them it is a party or family reunion isn't technically lying because it is a party or family reunion. There happens to be a wedding going on as well. Some vendors won't even stay long enough to be able to tell. Tiered/stacked cakes for example are becoming popular for birthdays and such so they aren't limited only to weddings. People use florists and djs, etc for parties as well. So despite the fact that all things wedding are automatically 10x more expensive once you say "wedding", how are the services and products really that different for a wedding vs a party or event? Especially if you tell the vendor that you don't want or need the extra wedding stuff that they add on.
Does the cost cutting tip of telling vendors you're having a party or family reunion really work?
Personally, I found being honest with my vendors worked best. I never told them it was for anything other than a wedding; no way would I never have slipped up with that one.
If the vendors price was out of my range, I told them so. In today's economy, many vendors are willing to negotiate! I simply told them, "I would love to use your services, unfortunately your prices are out of my budget. Is there someone you might be able to recommend in a lesser price point?" This is where they will ask you about your budget %26amp; they will start working with you or refer you to someone else.
Example - my videographer shaved about $600 off of my price quote. He was running a special where if you booked you got an Ipod or PS3. I opted to not receive this "gift with purchase" and reduced the time I had him for. It was a win win for both of us.
Just be honest. You wouldn't want your vendor to lie to you, so start the relationship out that way.
Reply:For some vendors, when its not obvious, yes, this will work!
For example, my bakery. I got a small cake and cupcakes at half of what they wanted for a "wedding cake" and "wedding cupcakes"!! Now, clearly, it wasn't your traditional wedding cake, so it didn't really matter.
Also, you may be able to get centerpieces and some floral work done cheaper if its not identified as a "wedding centerpiece." But, its kind of hard to explain why you need a bouquet for a "family reunion."
Good luck!!
Reply:Do not tell your photographer or videographer this- as the poster above said, they will be unprepared and not able to deliver you the product that you'll expect.
I am not a fan of lying to vendors. How would you feel if they lied to you?
Reply:If you're having the party on a Friday or (especially) Saturday, you can forget about saving a lot of money. That is when the vendors get most of their work. You could save bunches of money by having the Wedding on any Sunday - Thursday, as long as it's not surrounding a holiday weekend when, again, they are naturally busy.
If you would like to see if there are cost savings, you could have a friend place a call on your behalf to a prospective vendor. Ask them how much a Saturday in (insert monty here) would cost for a party. Then, have someone else call the same vendor for a Wedding quote for a Saturday in the same month.
We tried this with our food vendor, and the prices were the same... which spoke volumes for them.
A BIG cost savings tip - consider favorite restaurants. Many have banquet rooms, or rooms that can be converted into banquet rooms. We got an amazing deal on a Sunday lunch Wedding at one of our favorite restaurants. Everyone loved the food, parking was abundant, and (best of all) we didn't have to ask friends/family to help clean up a venue when the party was over.
Good luck!
Reply:Although some tell you to do this, it doesn't really always work because vendors find out anyway. You're really better off being honest with them.
Regardless, you CAN negotiate with vendors--you just have to know how and to be patient and flexible. Certain things though, you CAN get away with--
*Cakes. If you are going for something less traditional, you can probably save money. Cupcakes are cheaper than wedding cakes and having your baker make a small tiered cake to cut and sheet cakes for serving (kept in the back) WILL save you money.
*Centerpieces are an easy way to save money. You don't necessarily have to tell the florist (if you are going the floral route) that it's for a wedding...you CAN tell them it's for a party. In addition, you can do non-floral CP's which can save you lots of money as well.
*DON'T try to use this "family party" tactic on a photographer or videographer--the packages are different and it's really not fair because it'll leave them unprepared.
DIY Reception Centerpieces - Can I do it?
After receiving such expensive quotes from florists I think I am going to attempt to do them on my own, but need an opinion. Our wedding is in the evening in October. Our colors are chocolate brown with sage green accents.
For the main centerpiece, 28 inch square glass vase filled with pears. Coming out of the top I will have branches and orange snapdragons (see pic for snapdragon).
http://s202.photobucket.com/albums/aa284...
http://s202.photobucket.com/albums/aa284...
I will also have two smaller arrangements on each table that will be small glass cubes filled with natural stones. They will have 3 roses (orange, champagne and red) and a bunch of berries (Hypercium).
What do you think? Does that work? Any suggestions?
THANKS!
DIY Reception Centerpieces - Can I do it?
i would not do so many arragements id do the smaller one on certin tables an tall ones on others but not all together unless you plan to have oblong tables i say leave it with the 28 inch vase with pears and branches with some crystals draped off of it and 4 or 5 snapdradon sprigged out of it keep it simple and if you want to bring it down to a nice glow then add candles around and dont do the rocks in them
Reply:That sounds great, just give yourself lots of time and recruit the bridesmaids or family to help you out!
Reply:Sounds good to me.
Reply:These ideas sound lovely! Good luck with them.
Reply:I think it sounds pretty. Don't get too much on each table. Less is better than too much. My daughter was married in October and we used small pumpkins and ivy.
Reply:Sounds like a beautiful idea you have. I am sure you can do it, just be careful not to put too much pressure on yourself. You don't mention how many tables you need to prepare or how much help you have. The best advice I have for you is to do as much as possible in advance.
The roses and hypercium are hardy as long as you keep them in a cool enviornment. And, obviously, the pears will be fine. While snap dragons are gorgeous, they are quite fragile and may not hold up long enough to be able to work with them in advance. As you probably know, they are also not in season in October, so you may be looking at a big expense there, if they are available at all, unless you are attempting to grow your own (which can be difficult to count on with success and timing of blooming.)
You may want to consider mums, mini-roses, orange sunflowers, or gerberas. They are all hardy and readily available in the fall.
I also suggest doing a trial run well in advance of your wedding. This will give you the opportunity to make sure that your vision plays out they way you hope and you can see how long it takes to put each centerpiece together so you know how much time to alot to complete each one.
Best wishes %26amp; Congratulations!
PS: You don't mention if you are able to have candles - some venues don't allow open flame. If this is the case, you can still add some light to your arrangments, take a peek at some floral lytes (some can even go in the water) - http://www.floralaccentlights.com/... or even battery operated candles http://www.100candles.com/battery_candle...
Both are available many places, I just included the links so you can see what I am talking about.
:)
Reply:I think that will look great and be fairly easy. I suggest using some Hanging Amaranthus in the tall arrangments to give a little more movement. It comes in a great green color .
The small arrangments sound great as well. Make sure you wash your stones very well so they dont contaiminate the water, it can kill your flowers pretty quickly.
Reply:My wedding day is in September. We want to make this 5 hours (ceremony + reception) as simple as possible. To us, the most important thing is to have good food and good entertainment. Everything else can be simplified.
My center piece will be 16" tall silk flower in a glass bowl filled with colored stones. We are doing it ourselves. And it can be done. To do fresh flowers yourselves will be difficult. Because you can not do it too early, and you need lots of rest before the big day. Consider silk flower if you like.
For the main centerpiece, 28 inch square glass vase filled with pears. Coming out of the top I will have branches and orange snapdragons (see pic for snapdragon).
http://s202.photobucket.com/albums/aa284...
http://s202.photobucket.com/albums/aa284...
I will also have two smaller arrangements on each table that will be small glass cubes filled with natural stones. They will have 3 roses (orange, champagne and red) and a bunch of berries (Hypercium).
What do you think? Does that work? Any suggestions?
THANKS!
DIY Reception Centerpieces - Can I do it?
i would not do so many arragements id do the smaller one on certin tables an tall ones on others but not all together unless you plan to have oblong tables i say leave it with the 28 inch vase with pears and branches with some crystals draped off of it and 4 or 5 snapdradon sprigged out of it keep it simple and if you want to bring it down to a nice glow then add candles around and dont do the rocks in them
Reply:That sounds great, just give yourself lots of time and recruit the bridesmaids or family to help you out!
Reply:Sounds good to me.
Reply:These ideas sound lovely! Good luck with them.
Reply:I think it sounds pretty. Don't get too much on each table. Less is better than too much. My daughter was married in October and we used small pumpkins and ivy.
Reply:Sounds like a beautiful idea you have. I am sure you can do it, just be careful not to put too much pressure on yourself. You don't mention how many tables you need to prepare or how much help you have. The best advice I have for you is to do as much as possible in advance.
The roses and hypercium are hardy as long as you keep them in a cool enviornment. And, obviously, the pears will be fine. While snap dragons are gorgeous, they are quite fragile and may not hold up long enough to be able to work with them in advance. As you probably know, they are also not in season in October, so you may be looking at a big expense there, if they are available at all, unless you are attempting to grow your own (which can be difficult to count on with success and timing of blooming.)
You may want to consider mums, mini-roses, orange sunflowers, or gerberas. They are all hardy and readily available in the fall.
I also suggest doing a trial run well in advance of your wedding. This will give you the opportunity to make sure that your vision plays out they way you hope and you can see how long it takes to put each centerpiece together so you know how much time to alot to complete each one.
Best wishes %26amp; Congratulations!
PS: You don't mention if you are able to have candles - some venues don't allow open flame. If this is the case, you can still add some light to your arrangments, take a peek at some floral lytes (some can even go in the water) - http://www.floralaccentlights.com/... or even battery operated candles http://www.100candles.com/battery_candle...
Both are available many places, I just included the links so you can see what I am talking about.
:)
Reply:I think that will look great and be fairly easy. I suggest using some Hanging Amaranthus in the tall arrangments to give a little more movement. It comes in a great green color .
The small arrangments sound great as well. Make sure you wash your stones very well so they dont contaiminate the water, it can kill your flowers pretty quickly.
Reply:My wedding day is in September. We want to make this 5 hours (ceremony + reception) as simple as possible. To us, the most important thing is to have good food and good entertainment. Everything else can be simplified.
My center piece will be 16" tall silk flower in a glass bowl filled with colored stones. We are doing it ourselves. And it can be done. To do fresh flowers yourselves will be difficult. Because you can not do it too early, and you need lots of rest before the big day. Consider silk flower if you like.
Would yo ube mad at your church if...?
Would you be mad if you got your church newsletter and it said your 7pm Wedding was to be held at 7am, and that there was another wedding the SAME day at 1:30 in the afternoon (about the time photographers, florists, and decorators should be showing up to ready the church for your wedding?)
Would yo ube mad at your church if...?
WHY ARE YOU ON THE COMPUTER!!! CALL THEM!
btw, that is pretty early for your wedding to set up for. 0_o i know things take time, but that is a big gap. it might not be AS bad as you think it is.
another BTW, why would they think a wedding would start at 7 am? 0_o that is way too early, TIME TO CALL!
Reply::) that is good, you do not need anymore stress. Glad it worked out. Report It
Reply:Glad it worked out for you, I hope everything else goes smoothly from here on. Report It
Reply:Well, it's not great that they made the typo, but hopefully that's not your wedding invitation, just an announcement!
As for there being another wedding, that's totally normal in most cases. That's something you could have kept in touch with the minister or church office about.
Good luck - and don't be mad at ANYONE, and surely not a building!
Reply:I would be very upset. Weddings and everything that they entail are stressful enough as it is without the church messing up something as important as the time AND doublebooking the church. If I were you, I would call them and politely ask them to fix their mistake and I would let them know what time everyone is coming to set up for YOUR wedding. If they do not respond to your polite requests, then you need to get rude. It is your wedding. However, I do have to ask, was your wedding booked first or was the 1:30 wedding booked before your's? That is where you may run into a problem. Regardless, this is not only a big issue for you, but for the other couple having their wedding there that day, and it needs to be resolved as soon as possible!
Reply:OMG, You better call them up and speak to them toot sweet, thats a major misprint and who knows what they are planning for you, call them NOW!
Reply:The newsletter is not relevant in any way shape or form to your wedding. It doesn't matter what time it says, your invitations are correct. Also, you had to know that churches book more than one wedding per day if you pick a popular day. There were 3 weddings in my church the day I got married, no big deal. Churches are for the entire congregation, they aren't banquet halls with exclusive contracts. There is no reason why anyone needs to be in the church 5 hours before the wedding. An hour or two is more the sufficient for setting up.
Reply:call about the misprint but there is nothing you can do about the other wedding!
so you'll have to get your decorators and so forth to show up an hour after like 2:30- 3 p.m.
Reply:No it was a typo and the other wedding will surely be gone in plenty of time for yours. Of course I've already had my wedding so hindsight yeah I would be. Just call the church and calmly ask whats up. Calm down everything will work out. And congrats on the wedding.
Reply:Oh wow, that is horrible! I would be so mad! Try and get your thoughts straight though and call them ASAP, the misprint cannot be helped now so ignore that, and maybe try and do the set up an hour later if not two, that should be enough time as i'm sure the other wedding won't be rescheduled
Reply:Well, that could be a problem, but before you get mad, call the person in charge of scheduling events at the church and calmly ask them to verify that times etc. for the day in question. It is certainly possible that there was some sort of error on the part of the creator of the newsletter rather than the actual church calendar.
I sure hope it was just a typo!! In that case it is a very small problem compared to those that could affect your day.
If in fact there is a wedding scheduled at 1:30 find out exactly what time period is blocked off. More than one wedding can be held in the same location on a given day, and frequently arrangements are made to have a wedding around midday and another in the evening.
These things should, of course, have been made clear to you when you made arrangements.
If, in the end, a serious mistake has been made in the booking of the church, then - one hopes that you have paperwork from when you arrangements were made ... then you should proceed to address with the church staff whose arrangement were made first. I would think that if yours were your arrangements should be favored in any corrective arrangements.
Ask what they will do to correct the problem, and try to be a willing to compromise a little bit to make things work. (I'm not saying you should bend over backwards - but the bigger a fit you throw the more stress you will have and you may find people dig in their heels and become more of a problem themselves.)
Best Wishes and Good luck!
Reply:Yes i would be
Reply:yaaa thats really stupid talk to the pastor about it its your day dont let it be ruined
Reply:YAH!! i mean it's ur "big day" and u want it to be a special as u can get it..
Reply:You better call them and straighten it out. Don't worry about the other wedding earlier in the day. There is still plenty of time to have the church set up for your wedding after the other one - besides they wouldn't be showing up 6 hours before your wedding anyway.
Reply:OH YES!!! You need to contact someone and get this figured out, otherwise it may end up as a disaster.
Reply:Don't waste time getting mad re. this typo, contact the church and get it corrected. Also, I assume all your clergy, vendors and guests know the correct time? I don't know how much of a problem this would cause w/o a correction, but get it corrected ASAP just in case.
Reply:Yes. They should have talked to you. Tell them that they need to change it back because you already have everything set and cannot change it.
Reply:Probably not. There are more important things in the world to waste my stress over. And it is probably an oversight......there are so many weddings happening in a weekend, it is common for a church to have a morning wedding and an afternoon wedding.....I know it is a pain but you cant stop them from holding another event on the day. A wedding doesnt take that long really, and once they are out, your decorators etc can move in. As long as they get in there by about 5, there shouldnt be any problem. Most wedding ceremonies last less than an hour and with photos etc, I am sure they would be well and truly out of there by 4.30. Decorators can do miricles in a short amount of time.....let them stress over it, you worry about yourself, and getting yourself there in time. I would make sure the church puts out an ammended newsletter tho, so you dont have any guests turning up at 7 am. Good luck anyway, and dont sweat the small stuff. I am sure it will all work itself out.
Would yo ube mad at your church if...?
WHY ARE YOU ON THE COMPUTER!!! CALL THEM!
btw, that is pretty early for your wedding to set up for. 0_o i know things take time, but that is a big gap. it might not be AS bad as you think it is.
another BTW, why would they think a wedding would start at 7 am? 0_o that is way too early, TIME TO CALL!
Reply::) that is good, you do not need anymore stress. Glad it worked out. Report It
Reply:Glad it worked out for you, I hope everything else goes smoothly from here on. Report It
Reply:Well, it's not great that they made the typo, but hopefully that's not your wedding invitation, just an announcement!
As for there being another wedding, that's totally normal in most cases. That's something you could have kept in touch with the minister or church office about.
Good luck - and don't be mad at ANYONE, and surely not a building!
Reply:I would be very upset. Weddings and everything that they entail are stressful enough as it is without the church messing up something as important as the time AND doublebooking the church. If I were you, I would call them and politely ask them to fix their mistake and I would let them know what time everyone is coming to set up for YOUR wedding. If they do not respond to your polite requests, then you need to get rude. It is your wedding. However, I do have to ask, was your wedding booked first or was the 1:30 wedding booked before your's? That is where you may run into a problem. Regardless, this is not only a big issue for you, but for the other couple having their wedding there that day, and it needs to be resolved as soon as possible!
Reply:OMG, You better call them up and speak to them toot sweet, thats a major misprint and who knows what they are planning for you, call them NOW!
Reply:The newsletter is not relevant in any way shape or form to your wedding. It doesn't matter what time it says, your invitations are correct. Also, you had to know that churches book more than one wedding per day if you pick a popular day. There were 3 weddings in my church the day I got married, no big deal. Churches are for the entire congregation, they aren't banquet halls with exclusive contracts. There is no reason why anyone needs to be in the church 5 hours before the wedding. An hour or two is more the sufficient for setting up.
Reply:call about the misprint but there is nothing you can do about the other wedding!
so you'll have to get your decorators and so forth to show up an hour after like 2:30- 3 p.m.
Reply:No it was a typo and the other wedding will surely be gone in plenty of time for yours. Of course I've already had my wedding so hindsight yeah I would be. Just call the church and calmly ask whats up. Calm down everything will work out. And congrats on the wedding.
Reply:Oh wow, that is horrible! I would be so mad! Try and get your thoughts straight though and call them ASAP, the misprint cannot be helped now so ignore that, and maybe try and do the set up an hour later if not two, that should be enough time as i'm sure the other wedding won't be rescheduled
Reply:Well, that could be a problem, but before you get mad, call the person in charge of scheduling events at the church and calmly ask them to verify that times etc. for the day in question. It is certainly possible that there was some sort of error on the part of the creator of the newsletter rather than the actual church calendar.
I sure hope it was just a typo!! In that case it is a very small problem compared to those that could affect your day.
If in fact there is a wedding scheduled at 1:30 find out exactly what time period is blocked off. More than one wedding can be held in the same location on a given day, and frequently arrangements are made to have a wedding around midday and another in the evening.
These things should, of course, have been made clear to you when you made arrangements.
If, in the end, a serious mistake has been made in the booking of the church, then - one hopes that you have paperwork from when you arrangements were made ... then you should proceed to address with the church staff whose arrangement were made first. I would think that if yours were your arrangements should be favored in any corrective arrangements.
Ask what they will do to correct the problem, and try to be a willing to compromise a little bit to make things work. (I'm not saying you should bend over backwards - but the bigger a fit you throw the more stress you will have and you may find people dig in their heels and become more of a problem themselves.)
Best Wishes and Good luck!
Reply:Yes i would be
Reply:yaaa thats really stupid talk to the pastor about it its your day dont let it be ruined
Reply:YAH!! i mean it's ur "big day" and u want it to be a special as u can get it..
Reply:You better call them and straighten it out. Don't worry about the other wedding earlier in the day. There is still plenty of time to have the church set up for your wedding after the other one - besides they wouldn't be showing up 6 hours before your wedding anyway.
Reply:OH YES!!! You need to contact someone and get this figured out, otherwise it may end up as a disaster.
Reply:Don't waste time getting mad re. this typo, contact the church and get it corrected. Also, I assume all your clergy, vendors and guests know the correct time? I don't know how much of a problem this would cause w/o a correction, but get it corrected ASAP just in case.
Reply:Yes. They should have talked to you. Tell them that they need to change it back because you already have everything set and cannot change it.
Reply:Probably not. There are more important things in the world to waste my stress over. And it is probably an oversight......there are so many weddings happening in a weekend, it is common for a church to have a morning wedding and an afternoon wedding.....I know it is a pain but you cant stop them from holding another event on the day. A wedding doesnt take that long really, and once they are out, your decorators etc can move in. As long as they get in there by about 5, there shouldnt be any problem. Most wedding ceremonies last less than an hour and with photos etc, I am sure they would be well and truly out of there by 4.30. Decorators can do miricles in a short amount of time.....let them stress over it, you worry about yourself, and getting yourself there in time. I would make sure the church puts out an ammended newsletter tho, so you dont have any guests turning up at 7 am. Good luck anyway, and dont sweat the small stuff. I am sure it will all work itself out.
Cheap Flowers?
I really really need help here I have $400 dollars to spend on flowers for my wedding (bride bouquet, and bridesmaids also decorations, etc, i don't need centerpieces) I"m using Gerbera Daisies very simple and not many. Please Florists in the Atlanta Metro area help!!!!!
Cheap Flowers?
You can do them yourself for not a lot of money if you buy them in bulk online. Try www.sommerflowers.com or www.fiftyflowers.com or flowerbud.com
Just search for bulk flowers.
Reply:You could make the flowers yourself, Its really not all that hard to do. order a bunfh of daisys to be delivered to the shop the day before, Take some ribbon and tie bows around the stems. Its simple, and cheap, and EASY. I just made all my flowers yesterday...... lol It cost me $40, and thats to do 3 bouquets, mine, 2 bridesmaids, 19 boutineers (Yes we have a very very large extended family with all our grandparents)
Think about different ways you can do it cheaper. You can buy fake flowers that look real and do it yourself. Have your bridesmaids help too. Make it a fun day.
Reply:hahah when i saw it i thought u were a guy about to buy a girl cheap flowers...
i was about to come though the screen and slap you... its all good now..
good luck and sorry i dont have an answer for ur question.
Reply:for real flowers-try Sam's or Costco
for fake-try Hobby Lobby
Reply:Hi,
I had the same prob for my wedding I was on a budget. So I went to look for a cheap florist....two days before the wedding he let me down. I ended up buying white and blue ballons, ribbon and wire. Tables alredy had white and blue (baby blue) as that was the theme for my wedding. A large heart shaped wire arch was made covered in ballons (4 blue, 4 white, 4 blue etc...) then ballons around the hall with ribbons. At first I thought it would look tacky but if its done right it can look beautiful and the best part it didnt cost much :) I did have centerpieces and these were blue floating candles (lit) in a shallow bowl and white candles (with the water dyed blue) I hope this helps or gives you an idea :)
Reply:Have you ever considered doing them yourself? It is really easy to do and since you say you are doing simple arrangements and not having a lot of flowers this would be inexpensive and things would be done the way you really want them! It's not hard to do, the only thing is time. You didn't say when your wedding was so that would be a factor so that you do not over stress yourself! Been there done that one! If you have time though this might be something you would want to consider.
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! God Bless!
Reply:If you don't mind doing it your self (And it's not that difficult unless you have a very complicated design in mind) you can save bundles on doing it your self.
Also if you go for silk flowers it will most likely save you even more if you get them in the right place.
I bought all the flowers for our wedding (Silk flowers) on eBay, it saved us TONS of money!
Reply:have you checked out www.atlantabridal.com or www.theknot.com they have listings for metro atlanta area.
Reply:do you, or anyone in your family have a membership to costco or sam's club? you can buy flowers in bulk for a really good price that way... you might be able to pay a florist to arrange them for you, saving money on the cost of the flowers themselves.
also, do a little research to see if there are any florist warehouses in your area... there's one near me in michigan, and they offer classes on how to arrange flowers and even make your own bouquets for weddings! besides that, it's much cheaper to buy from a place like that where the florists themselves go to buy their supplies.
good luck!! :)
Reply:Go with silk flowers. Most look just as nice, you can keep them, they are very practical on price, and you can get more for less.
Reply:Gerber daisy are not always the cheapest flowers. They can be as expensive as roses depending on the time of year needed. Go into a florist, tell them your bugget. They should be able to help you out. If you want to do them yourself, see your local grocery store. They get bunches of flowers in you can make beautiful bouquets. Do not go with silk, they may last forever but silks can cost way more than fresh flowers. Just remember, you also have to pay for the labor of putting it together.
Reply:http://www.yaoflowers.com/ Buy Flowers: Anniversary Flowers If you're going to buy flowers online for your anniversary, YaoFlowers offers a wide variety of anniversary flowers and gifts. From deep red rose bouquets for expressing your love, to beautiful blends of mixed flowers to remind them that the spark is alive, our flowers are sure to convey your sentiments. Buying flowers for your loved one is the ultimate way to remind them of your enduring commitment. YaoFlowers has arranged an admiral collection of anniversary flower bouquets to help you decide which flowers to buy for your sweetheart. Our anniversary flowers are hand picked and delivered fresh from the fields, so when you buy flowers from YaoFlowers, you're sending the freshest flowers available. Our anniversary flowers are guaranteed to last for at least 7 days or your money back. Buy flowers for your loved one from YaoFlowers.http://www.yaoflowers.com/anniversary-fl...
Reply:Do you have a Sam's Wholesale in your area? They have great flowers/great prices. Get some of your friends together to tie ribbons on them.
Reply:I only spent about $100 for my bouquet, 4 bridesmaids bouquet, 4 groomsmen, 2 for the moms and dads (single flowers) and there were oriental lillies.
I went to my local florist shop @ the grocery store.
Reply:i would suggest buying fake flowers
we did that for my dads wedding they are cheaper
(go to a craft store) and last longer, thats something you can keep forever and yes you can keep real ones but you either have to freeze them or let them dry out
fake ones always stay pretty and you can put them almost anywhere as a decoration
Reply:I KNOW Iam going to catch heck for this answer, but here goes.
Check out your local cemetery. Yes, that is what I said. Many of the have a no flowers policy and remove all of the flowers weekly. I was looking for flowers for a Bible School project and someone told to try there. I ended up with thirty gardenias that looked brand new and reall as anything. I used them to do a wedding for a friend and it came out amazing. Maybe you can get most of your filler flowers through a cemetery and only have to buy a few to make your bouquets.
Just a thought.
Reply:Dandylions
sandals church
Cheap Flowers?
You can do them yourself for not a lot of money if you buy them in bulk online. Try www.sommerflowers.com or www.fiftyflowers.com or flowerbud.com
Just search for bulk flowers.
Reply:You could make the flowers yourself, Its really not all that hard to do. order a bunfh of daisys to be delivered to the shop the day before, Take some ribbon and tie bows around the stems. Its simple, and cheap, and EASY. I just made all my flowers yesterday...... lol It cost me $40, and thats to do 3 bouquets, mine, 2 bridesmaids, 19 boutineers (Yes we have a very very large extended family with all our grandparents)
Think about different ways you can do it cheaper. You can buy fake flowers that look real and do it yourself. Have your bridesmaids help too. Make it a fun day.
Reply:hahah when i saw it i thought u were a guy about to buy a girl cheap flowers...
i was about to come though the screen and slap you... its all good now..
good luck and sorry i dont have an answer for ur question.
Reply:for real flowers-try Sam's or Costco
for fake-try Hobby Lobby
Reply:Hi,
I had the same prob for my wedding I was on a budget. So I went to look for a cheap florist....two days before the wedding he let me down. I ended up buying white and blue ballons, ribbon and wire. Tables alredy had white and blue (baby blue) as that was the theme for my wedding. A large heart shaped wire arch was made covered in ballons (4 blue, 4 white, 4 blue etc...) then ballons around the hall with ribbons. At first I thought it would look tacky but if its done right it can look beautiful and the best part it didnt cost much :) I did have centerpieces and these were blue floating candles (lit) in a shallow bowl and white candles (with the water dyed blue) I hope this helps or gives you an idea :)
Reply:Have you ever considered doing them yourself? It is really easy to do and since you say you are doing simple arrangements and not having a lot of flowers this would be inexpensive and things would be done the way you really want them! It's not hard to do, the only thing is time. You didn't say when your wedding was so that would be a factor so that you do not over stress yourself! Been there done that one! If you have time though this might be something you would want to consider.
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! God Bless!
Reply:If you don't mind doing it your self (And it's not that difficult unless you have a very complicated design in mind) you can save bundles on doing it your self.
Also if you go for silk flowers it will most likely save you even more if you get them in the right place.
I bought all the flowers for our wedding (Silk flowers) on eBay, it saved us TONS of money!
Reply:have you checked out www.atlantabridal.com or www.theknot.com they have listings for metro atlanta area.
Reply:do you, or anyone in your family have a membership to costco or sam's club? you can buy flowers in bulk for a really good price that way... you might be able to pay a florist to arrange them for you, saving money on the cost of the flowers themselves.
also, do a little research to see if there are any florist warehouses in your area... there's one near me in michigan, and they offer classes on how to arrange flowers and even make your own bouquets for weddings! besides that, it's much cheaper to buy from a place like that where the florists themselves go to buy their supplies.
good luck!! :)
Reply:Go with silk flowers. Most look just as nice, you can keep them, they are very practical on price, and you can get more for less.
Reply:Gerber daisy are not always the cheapest flowers. They can be as expensive as roses depending on the time of year needed. Go into a florist, tell them your bugget. They should be able to help you out. If you want to do them yourself, see your local grocery store. They get bunches of flowers in you can make beautiful bouquets. Do not go with silk, they may last forever but silks can cost way more than fresh flowers. Just remember, you also have to pay for the labor of putting it together.
Reply:http://www.yaoflowers.com/ Buy Flowers: Anniversary Flowers If you're going to buy flowers online for your anniversary, YaoFlowers offers a wide variety of anniversary flowers and gifts. From deep red rose bouquets for expressing your love, to beautiful blends of mixed flowers to remind them that the spark is alive, our flowers are sure to convey your sentiments. Buying flowers for your loved one is the ultimate way to remind them of your enduring commitment. YaoFlowers has arranged an admiral collection of anniversary flower bouquets to help you decide which flowers to buy for your sweetheart. Our anniversary flowers are hand picked and delivered fresh from the fields, so when you buy flowers from YaoFlowers, you're sending the freshest flowers available. Our anniversary flowers are guaranteed to last for at least 7 days or your money back. Buy flowers for your loved one from YaoFlowers.http://www.yaoflowers.com/anniversary-fl...
Reply:Do you have a Sam's Wholesale in your area? They have great flowers/great prices. Get some of your friends together to tie ribbons on them.
Reply:I only spent about $100 for my bouquet, 4 bridesmaids bouquet, 4 groomsmen, 2 for the moms and dads (single flowers) and there were oriental lillies.
I went to my local florist shop @ the grocery store.
Reply:i would suggest buying fake flowers
we did that for my dads wedding they are cheaper
(go to a craft store) and last longer, thats something you can keep forever and yes you can keep real ones but you either have to freeze them or let them dry out
fake ones always stay pretty and you can put them almost anywhere as a decoration
Reply:I KNOW Iam going to catch heck for this answer, but here goes.
Check out your local cemetery. Yes, that is what I said. Many of the have a no flowers policy and remove all of the flowers weekly. I was looking for flowers for a Bible School project and someone told to try there. I ended up with thirty gardenias that looked brand new and reall as anything. I used them to do a wedding for a friend and it came out amazing. Maybe you can get most of your filler flowers through a cemetery and only have to buy a few to make your bouquets.
Just a thought.
Reply:Dandylions
sandals church
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